013 - Importance of parents to discipline, educate and correct their children in person

Importance of parents to discipline, educate and correct their children in person.

Duties of parents:

a.      Provide -> (1 Samuel 2:19; 2 Cor í ntios 12:14). This in no way means that the children will be hanging out watching TV or playing while parents do everything (as if child labor was a heinous crime, as the media preaches). The Eternal created the work (1 Thess 4.9-12) so that husband, wife and children could learn from each other about Him and the right way to bless the neighbor when they work together and at the same thing.

Thus, the work is the special time of the Eternal for the home, where He provides them and at the same time, guide them to the right (Eph 4:28) of a warm and pleasant way, through His loving companion touching the hearts each other’s.

Do not spoil this killing yourself of working to give a future to the children (see Ps 127.1,2). Use work as an excuse to give them the present: the Eternal fear, His love(Proverbs 15.16,17) and peace (Prov 17.1) acting in your home through you. After all, if it were to provide only the material part, the child did not stay in the mother's womb nine months (eighth animal of largest gestation period). The Eternal thus provided for strengthening the bond of the mother with her son, so that his mind, soul and spirit were also provided.

If the only thing that parents provide for their children is physically, the children can go into an enormous mental and emotional crisis, going away from their parents, even losing themselves in prostitution or drugs.

b.    Love (create and strengthen the Family bond) -> (Titus 2.4,5). The home is the cell of the Church, an illustration of how should be our relationship with the neighbor, so that all the land can be filled with the glory of the Eternal (Genesis 1.28; Isaiah 7.4; Habbakuk 2.14). Keep in mind that Jesus ordered we were preaching the gospel worldwide (Mark 16.15). Of course, nobody can do this literally. However, if the parents, when they sow the Word of the Eternal (Jesus) in the lives of the children (Luke 8.11), they sow themselves within them (see Matthew 13.19,20), they will can, through them, go to places beyond the reach (2Corinthians 10.13-16).

For this, the parents should make history in the lives of children, so that when someone looking to the grandchildren, they can see who Jesus is in the grandparents’ life and when somebody looking for the parents they can see the true identity of the children (Proverbs 17.6).

c.     Create-> (Ephesians 6.4). Your sons needs to be created. They don’t born ready. Although each one born with an identity before the Eternal, is up to parents discover this identity (see Jeremiah 17.9,10; 1Corinthians 13.12) and seek in the Eternal the conditions for their sons to be made son of the Eternal by Jesus (John 1.12), i.e., that His salvation be developed in them with fear and trembling (Philippians 2.12,13). For this, is necessary to be present continuously (see Ezekiel 19.5,6) in the life of your sons (Proverbs 20.11; 27.23) for that the Eternal have all time to work His glory in life of them (Micah 2.8,9).

d.    Guide them -> (1Timothy 3.4,12; 1Thessalonians 2.11,12). First of all, the husband should know what is the work for which he has been called by the Eternal (see Acts 13.2). Only so he will can expect the right thing of wife (arousing this in her) so that, together, they give place for the Holy Spirit incite the sons to walk in the Way (Judges 13.25; John 14.6).

e.    Teach -> (Genesis 18.19; Exodus 10.2; Exodus 12.26,27; Exodus 13.8,9,14; Deuteronomy 4.10; Deuteronomy 6.6,7,20-25; 11.18,19; Deuteronomy 31.13; 32.7,46; Joshua 4.6,7,21,22; Psalms 34.11; Psalms 44.1; Psalms 78.3-6; Proverbs 4.1-4,10,11; Proverbs 7.24; Proverbs 8.32,33; Proverbs 31.1; Isaiah 38.19; Joel 1.3; Titus 2.3-5).

Not make use of lies to convince them to do what you desire (e.g: Santa Klaus, bogeyman, etc.). At the moment may seem easier solution, but with this you’ll lose the respect and trust of your son. Remember that it is the knowledge of the truth that releases of the sin (John 8.32-36).

Your son need not only know the truth and accept it. They must understand it (Ephesians 5.17) and to be persuaded to live it happily (John 16.8). So, don't allow your son waste the wonderful mind that he has (until the six years the mind of the child absorbs all, even sleeping). Put the Holy Scripture for them hear, meditate it aloud along with them and, thus, you will be providing that they, when to grow, have more easily to memorize it (as orders Jesus in John 14.21,23). Instead of give to your children toys, since baby familiarize them only with what is good, so that the perfect praise continue leaving the mouth them (Matthew 21.15,16; Proverbs 22.6), bringing for you great joy (Proverbs 10.1; 15.20).

Nor pass this task of educating to other persons (nursery school, nanny, TV, etc.). If you don 't teach which is good, there will be someone to teach what is of no profit. Be not as the useless servant which think that he only must comply with the obligation (Luke 17.10). For more work the son can give, even if everything seems to indicate that you do not have the skills and resources to educate them, know that they are precisely what the Eternal put in your life in order to make out of you what there is of best, that which will do of you someone special (meditate on Luke 13.6-9, where it shows that what did of the vinedresser someone especial was the fig tree).

f.      Disciple -> (Exodus 10.9; Deuteronomy 12.12; Deuteronomy 31.12; Joshua 8.35; 2Chronicles 20.13; Esza 8.21; Neemiah 12.43; Joel 2.16; Hosea 2.9; Matthew 28.18-20; John 21.15-17; 1Peter 5.2,3). Disciple means being along continuously serving as living example of teachings transmitted. Does not help stay together all the time, but having no good to teach; neither solves to teach good things, but not to show in practice as they work.Discipline -> (Deut 8:5; Deut 11:2; Job 5:17;  Job 37:13; Psalms 50:17; Proverbs 5:23;  Proverbs 6:23; Proverbs 12:1; Proverbs 15:10; Proverbs 15:32; Proverbs 29:15; Jeremiah 2:30; Jeremiah 5:3; Jeremiah 6:8; Jeremiah 7:28; Jeremiah Ez 20:37; Zephaniah 3:2,7; 1Corinthians 11:32; Ephesians 6:4; 1Timothy 3:4; 2Timothy 2:25). In addition to teaching in theory and practice (discipleship), parents should encourage and seek from the Eternal what is necessary for children to do of what is pleasing to the Eternal a custom in their lives until the day when the love of Jesus in their lives is greater than the desires of sin. From there, with the living testimony of a life of praise and worship present in them (1 John 5.10), His desire will naturally become a pleasure in their lives.

g.    Correct (Use the rod) -> (Proverbs 3.11,12; Proverbs 13.24; Proverbs 19.18,19; Proverbs 20.30; Proverbs 23.13,14). Today, correcting for good became a lack of respect and even crime. However, the Eternal demonstrates His love precisely through correction (Psalm 89:31-32; Hebrews 12:5-11; Habakkuk 1:12). So much so that David considers the staff (discipline) and the rod (correction) as consolation (Psalms 23:4). He that hardens himself (Jeremiah 17:23) in order not to hear rebuke, is mocking, stupid (Proverbs 12:1; Proverbs 13:1), only brings sadness to his parents (Proverbs 17:21; Proverbs 19:13; Proverbs 29:17) and ends up not being able to see the value ff his soul (Prov. 15:32) until he is utterly destroyed (Proverbs 29:1). On the other hand, the corrected child will be able to find rest for the soul (Psalms 94.12,13).

Do not be sorry to use the rod! If you do not correct your child with love, you can be sure that someone will correct him with violence, making use of batons, stabs, revolvers, etc. As the rod is for the backs of those who have no understanding (Proverbs 10:13; Proverbs 26:3), if you do not use the rod, you will not be able to keep your son from foolishness and madness (Proverbs 22:15).

Note: Discipline and correction should go together, since it is no use having discipline in the wrong thing, nor being corrected in something that cannot be lived. Do not be authoritative, but an authority (example of life) in your child's life.

h.    Be zelous -> (Lamentations 2.19). To be zelous is to protect, to take care of the sons with all the attention, so that everything that is of the Eternal finds place in their lives -> After all, the Eternal watches over His children (so that His presence, truth, justice, etc. remain in their Life – Exodus 20:5; 34:14; Deut 4:24; 5.9; 6:15; 29:20; Joshua 24:19; 2 Kings 19:31; Psalms 79:5; Isaiah 9:7; 26:11; 37.32; 42.13; 59.17 Ezekiel 5.13; 23:25; 36.5,6; 38.19; 39.25; Joel 2:18; Nahum 1:2, Zephaniah 1:18; 3:8; Zechariah 8:2). Therefore, who we are we not to watch over Him, that is, to give place so that He may continue to watch over His sons (Numbers 25:11,13; Rom 12:11; 2Corinthians 7:11; 8.22; 9.2; 11.2; Rev. 3:19)?

One way to do this is to look with zeal for the best gift of the Lord to us (1 Corinthians 12:31; 14.1,39; Galatians 4:18; 1 Timothy 5:10; Titus 2:14; 1 Peter 3:13).

Furthermore, be careful not to tempt the Eternal with your sins, ie, compel Him to manifest His zeal, either to protect your family from the wrath of others, or to protect others from the wrath of your family (Deuteronomy 32:16, 21; 1 Kings 14:22; Psalms 69: 9; 78:58; 119: 139; John 2:17; 1 Corinthians 10:22). See that your children's zeal is for good (Gal 4.18, Tt 2.14), namely, being an authority, an example to be followed (1 Cor. 11: 1).

Examples of zeal for children: (Genesis 37.14; Exodus 2.2-3; 2Samuel 21.10; 1Kings 3.26; 2Kings 4.20,28-30; 2Chronicles 22.11,12; Esther 2.11; Job 1.5; Matthew 15.22-28).

i.      Watching -> Parents should keep a watchful eye on their children so that when Jesus comes into their homes, everyone can be free from temptation (Matthew 26.41) and ready to receive Him (Matthew 24:42, 25:13, Mark 13.33- 37, Luke 21.36). To be more exact, parents must be able to see in every circumstance what Jesus wants to manifest in order to mark the lives of their children profoundly (see Mark 14:34,38). The idea is that Jesus may make Himself known where the parents are (1 Cor. 15:34) so ​​that they and their children may be steadfast in faith (1 Cor. 16:13, 1 Peter 4:7; 5.8). It is precisely this that consummates the salvation of Jesus in the life of the fathers (1 Tim. 2:14,15). Take the example of Paul (Acts 20:31).

Note: vigilance and zeal go hand in hand. It is no use watching for no external evil to reach the children if, internally, they are lost; Nor does it resolve to care for the interior of them is full of good things, if we fail to make the circumstances that arise a propitious opportunity for all the wealth inwardly deposited in them manifest and consolidate itself in the lives of all that surround them.

Note: children are the inheritance of the Lord (Psalms 127; 128.1-4). What will you do with this inheritance? To let thorns grow (Matthew 13: 7,22), to be devoured by wickedness (2 Sam. 21:10 - associate with Matthew 13:4,19), that Ha-Satan destroy the eternal glory in their lives (Micah 2:9)? Do not forget that they will crown you, whether of shame or glory (Prov. 17:7). Whether your son will be a thug or a virtuous one, it will all depend on the seed you plant or allow it to be planted in his heart today, NOW!

 

As the husband should proceed to the home be a blessing:

a.     Give the wife an identity and function (Genesis 2:24; 3:20; 5.1). One of Adam's functions was to name animals (Gen 2:19). However, notice the name that Adam gave to his helper. Before sin it was called woman because it was taken from man (Genesis 2:23). That is to say, she had an identity, but had no function. After sin, Adam called her Eve because she was the mother of all living beings (note that she was not the only mother of human beings, but of all living beings - Gen. 3:20). She now had a function, but had lost her identity with the man (so much so that Adam did not hesitate to accuse his woman - Gen 3.12).

This, however, teaches us that only the Eternal can give a perfect identity to husband, wife and children. So much so that many men of the Eternal have their names changed (for example: Gen 17:5,15; Gen 32:28, Mark 3.16,17; John 11.16). And how did the Eternal call man and woman? By the name of Adam (Gen. 5:1). Therefore, the woman had identity and function only with Adam. That is, it is the man who determines who the woman is going to be, as well as her function (since she was specially created to assist him - Gen 2:18) and grace (1 Peter 3.7).

Therefore, man has the duty to seek to know who he is in the eyes of the Eternal and for what he was created. Only then will he know what to expect from the wife, as well as what he will need to offer him in order to receive from him exactly what the Lord has for the success of his mission here.

2. Give your life to his wife. It is not in vain that the woman was taken from the rib. The first thing to learn from this is that the woman was formed by the Eternal from that which was in man. That is, man can only have the woman for himself (Eph 5:25-27) if he is willing to fill her with himself and with the knowledge of the Eternal (Gen 2:23; 1Cor. 14:34,35). There is nothing good for a man who, first of all, does not leave out of him. There is no other way for a woman to help her husband suitably (in all areas) than to be filled with him in her. Hence the cohabitation which, once made with understanding (and not only with emotion, as 1Peter 3.7 instructs) allows man to cast his seed (not only physical but mental, sentimental and spiritual) within her, so that the child that she generates is not just a piece of flesh with genetic material from her husband, but a continuation and living expression of who the husband is (as well as Jesus in his life).

Another thing to note is that the rib is meant to protect the most vital organs in the body. If, however, we consider that the Eternal does not waste words, it is quite probable that the fact that the Holy Scripture quotes that individuals were killed by being wounded in the fifth rib (2Sam 2.23; 3.27; 4.6; 20.10) points to the fact that the woman was taken from the fifth rib, a region even more vital than the others (who knows where the heart is). Be that as it may, this shows that the woman was made to protect the vitality of man and to support him in difficult times (hence the bone, the hardest and toughest material in the body).

For this, he must grant the wife the life of Christ (His grace). How? Teaching her, in a practical way, all that she feels touched by the Eternal to learn (1Cor 14.34,35). Since it is impossible to know everything about the Eternal (Eph. 3:19), a woman should learn only what has to do with her role with her husband. And no one better than the husband to do this moved by the Holy Spirit.

3. Being a pastor of his home (1Timothy 3,4,12). If we think that the shepherd's function is to lead the sheep to the green pastures (Psalms 23:2), then it is man's responsibility to have Eternal’s discipline inside himself in His knowledge, wisdom, righteousness, and truth in order to be authority in the lives of son, a confirmation that Jesus and His Word work.

How a woman should do to make her home a blessing:

 

a.       Honor the husband (Esther 1:20), so that the authority and wisdom of Christ in his life is tangible (Proverbs 12.4), caming to be esteemed before all (Proverbs 31.23);

b.       Well know the Word of the Eternal (Jesus), so that she can build your house wisely (Proverbs 14.1), using the law in a way that is beneficial to all (Proverbs 31.26) and being able to win her husband without a word, so only with the virtue of Christ living in her (1Timothy 2.11; 1Peter 3.1,2);

c.       Being a good housewife (Titus 2.5). That is to say, she must know what should be done in the home, be able to show each one which the task to be done (Proverbs 31:15), be always attentive to the progress of your home (Proverbs 31.27), always checking up if everything is walking under the rule of the Eternal (1 Timothy 5:14);

d.       Prepare the appropriate food to feed her family (Proverbs 31:15). She does not eat the bread of laziness (Proverbs 31:27), that is, she is not occupied with his greed, running after the superfluous (Proverbs 21:25,26) or of what the Eternal has already given (Matthew 6.11,33).

And what is superfluous? After the Lord created the world, He assessed all as being very good (Genesis 1:31). So, house is something superfluous (the Lord did not create this and the Son of man hath not where to lay His head - Matthew 8:20; Luke 9:58), as well as concert about health (even because, since Christ bore all diseases, the wisest course is to find out why this may not be being fulfilled in our lives instead of seeking palliative to ward off the consequences of sin, covering up the real spiritual situation - Isaiah 53.4-6; see Isaiah 33.24). Not to mention that Paul adds: having sustenance (food and drink) and with what we cover ourselves that we be glad (1 Timothy 6.7,8).

e.       Staying with your husband (loving him - Titus 2.4) giving him what is due (and vice-versa - 1Corinthians 7.3-5,10; Titus 2.5). One should only deprive oneself of the other when there is mutual consent, and this ONLY when he wants to be alone with Jesus. After all, in Jesus, the wife is nothing without the husband and vice versa (1 Corinthians 11:12), such as head never separates from the body (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19.5,6; Mark 10.8; 1 Corinthians 6:16). Without the perfect communion (including physically) between husband and wife, even the prayers (1 Peter 3.7) and ministry (Malachi 2:13) are void.

f.      Give room for the glory of the Eternal to transform her life, so that she can reflect it as a mirror (2Corinthians 3:18) to all that consent to be close to her (including her husband and children), providing that her husband and children are increasingly separated for the exclusive use of Jesus.

g.     Make your home the ideal place so that the zealous practice of every good work may be lived (1Timothy 2:10; 1Timothy 5:10).

h.     Do not be argumentative, murmuring or slanderous (Proverbs 19:13; Proverbs 21.9,19; Proverbs 25.24; Proverbs 27.15,16; 1Timothy 3:11). On the contrary, she must live the Eternal's righteousness in a meek and quiet manner (1Peter 3.4), always doing good, without fearing any wonder (1Peter 3.6), covering her husband's faults in her heart (1Peter 3.4) while expects in the Eternal the victory (1Peter 3.5).

i.         Being submissive to her husband (1 Corinthians 11.3; Colossians 3:18; Ephesians 5.22-24,33; Titus 2.5). She must give up their dreams and the old life (Psalms 45.10,11) in order to embrace the plan that Jesus established for her husband, serving him of support, comfort, encouragement and help in a sweet, lovingly way (Genesis 2:18) so that he may rest in the virtue of Jesus in her life (Proverbs 31.10-12).

j.         Be good mother (Titus 2.4). Just as the egg receives within itself the seed of man and multiplies it, so the woman must receive the Word of the Eternal that He has placed in her husband, be taken by it and make it fruitful in the children’s live, so that, through them, the whole earth may be filled with the glory of the Eternal (Isaiah 11:9, Habakkuk 2:14) and subject to Jesus (Genesis 1:28), coming to give Him praise (Psalms 148.1-10; Psalms 150.6). This is how the salvation of Jesus is worked in the woman (1 Timothy 2:15).

Note: as EVERY woman with the wisdom of the Eternal is able to build her house, regardless of circumstance or husband (Proverbs 14.1), then there is no way to fail. (1 Corinthians 7.12-14; 1 Peter 3.1,2), unless the woman gets tired of doing good (Galatians 6.9).

Sisters, sisters, if you knew the strength that you have and the importance of your role with the Eternal, you would not devalue yourself by trying to be equal to the man, but you would allow yourself to be used by Jesus in that for which you were created.

 

What is the role of the children?

a)    To honor father and mother (Exodus 20:12; Deuteronomy 5:16; Matthew 15.4; 19:19; Mark 7:10; 10:19; 18:20; Eph 6.2). But what is honoring? It is the fruit of glorifying. Children are to remain continually with their parents in order to receive their glory within themselves. The constant practice of this will make the character of Jesus in the life of the parents become part of the spiritual DNA of the children, making them truly children of their parents, that is, an exact expression of the concepts and values ​​that are in them.

 

Understanding that this is honoring, comes the question: is what is within you really worthy of being honored by your son?

 

b)    Be the offspring of the father (Deut. 25:6-9). Since what the father is will not remain alive forever, something must be done so that the work that the Eternal began in the life of the father continues. It is up to the son to keep alive the identity of the father (that peculiarity of the wisdom (Ephesians 3.10) and Favor (1Peter 4.10) of the Eternal which only he is to manifest) for the generations to come. To do this, they must continually walk with his father, so that this is added to their real identity before the Eternal.

And then: you, father, is someone worthy of being imitated by your son?

c)     Being seed of pious (Malachi 2:15). Accept in themselves all the loving correction of the Eternal, beginning with the fathers (Proverbs 3:11-12; Heb 12:5-13), and then in the course of all life through those whom the Eternal brings to them. Wherever they may be, children should be willing to have their understanding transformed during the affronts (Rom. 12:2) in order to convey the importance of this transforming piety to everyone with whom they have contact.

 

To achieve this, they must remain at the hand of their father as arrows of piety at all times when he is speaking to the enemies at the door (Psalms 127:5). Each victory of piety is a further testimony of Christ and His word in them, so that they may be better than their masters (their parents - see Luke 6:40).

 

In short: the son must glorify the father at every moment, honor him during his life, transmit his concepts and values ​​to the grandchildren, but above all, progress to the point of being the descendant of the own Eternal (arriving where their parents could not).

 

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