0104 - What does it mean: your desire shall be to your man?

What does it mean: your desire shall be to your man?

 

·       Gen 3:16 (ASV) -> “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy pain and thy conception; in pain thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”.

 

When we read this nemesis on Eve, apparently, this sounds good. Nonetheless, see this verse in another version:

 

·       Gen 3:16 (ESV) -> “To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.””.

 

Reading this verse, we can figure out better. And this adds up. After the sin, our desires became contrary to us:

 

·       Jas 4:1-3 -> “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.”.

 

See the case of Cain, what the Creator said to him:

 

·       Gen 4:7 -> “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. *Its desire is contrary to you* , but you must rule over it.”.

 

So, the sin changed the reality of the couple.

 

Let’s review the base for the creation of the woman.

 

·       Gen 2:18 (LSV) -> “And YHWH God says, “[It is] not good for the man to be alone; I make him a helper as his counterpart.””.

 

She was made to stay face to face with him (as the cherubim in the ark of covenant). This position, before the sin, was the position of the love (as we well know, when husband and wife have sexual intercourse within the standards of purity and holiness of the Holy Scripture, they put themselves one in front of the other).

 

After the sin, this same position passed to mean opposition too (when two people fight, they stare at each other face to face).

 

In other words: before the sin, if the desire of the woman was to her man, this would add in his life (and only to his life) all the good that the Creator put in inside and outside her.

 

After the sin, this became a problem. Now, the man needs, not only fight against his bad and deceptive heart (Jer 17:9), but give his life so that his wife can be clean of all uncleanness (Eph 5:25-27).

 

And, of course, now the man needs to fight against himself and have great patience and forbearance enduring all the ill-treatments of her until Jesus’ work is done.

 

Fortunately, the Creator able the man to overbear her. If the woman submits to this treatment of Jesus and the man persevere until the end, both will overpower the sin and will be a happy couple.

 

One of the things that the Creator allowed in order to remind all mothers that they conceived in concupiscence (sin) was the multifarious sorrows of childbearing. As, nowadays, the women bear few children, they forget very soon the sentence that weighs upon them, making the marriage more difficult.

 

Furthermore, once the desire of the woman shall be to her man, this means that she passed to demand more attention of the man, what choke the man if he didn’t stay filling of the unction of the Holy Spirit.

 

On the one hand, this is good to force the man to seek in Jesus more frequently, beyond occupy the time of the woman so that she doesn’t find more time to “gossip with the serpents” of this world. On the other hand, this can be the cause of many distresses, squabbles, etc.

 

But the Creator allowed this in order to preclude all complicity in the error (recollect Adam hearing the voice of the woman – Gen 3:17). To figure out this, see the verse below:

 

·       Gal 5:16,17 -> “But I say, Walk by the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are contrary the one to the other; that ye may not do the things that ye would.”.

 

The idea of the marriage is that the man can’t be successful in anything contrary to Jesus and His will for their home. The woman was put in his life to hinder him of running after his bad desires (and vice-versa).

 

They only should be able to reach an agreement when the wish of both is the Holy Spirit’s wish too.

 

And the sentence on the man “By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread” (Gen 3:19) should recall the man that his dreams, wish, plans, thoughts, feelings are bad (Rom 3:9-18) and, thus, instead of staying like a machine trying to gain all the world, he should concerned about gain their soul to the eternal life (Mat 10:39) (especially because everyone will die).

 

So, the tiredness is to remember the man that he needs to dedicate more to hear Jesus’ voice in order to supply all necessity of life of her wife so that she can be a fruitful vine in the life of the children and, thus, together, all the family can be used to fill the Earth of the glory of the Creator (Hab 2:14).

 

So, have a good day cope with your spouse in the Way so that your marriage can reach the purpose of the Creator: save your souls and glorify His name wherever He guides you.